Dating is not open only to those that have never married , it is open to everyone regardless of their past experiences and this means that even divorcees have a place to find love again and be happy.
If you look on-line there are many websites designed for divorcees alone where they meet and mingle. It's important I point out to you that just because you're a divorcee doesn't mean you can only date someone like you. Feel free to explore other sites. Join other open sites to find love again even with singles that have never married before.
As a divorcee, you do not necessarily have to work harder than the rest, but there are things you should be aware of and be keen about.
1. When uploading your profile picture , ensure that it is not your wedding photo. You might have been married once, but you really don't have any business displaying this pictures on a dating site. Using such a picture actually makes you look as though you are still not over your past relationship and nobody will like this. Never use your wedding picture no matter how stunning it is or how expensive your wedding gown is.
2. Do not use a picture that has your ex-partner in it common sense. It is another sign that you are still clinging to the broken marriage. Use recent photos and let them have you alone as the subject.
3. A lot of dating sites have sections where you are asked to give a summary of yourself. Mention that you are divorced and with kids so it's clear from the beginning so the other party is aware of what they are getting into. Nothing is as bad as you getting on with a guy and he finds out you were once married with kids and he cuts you off. Make it as brief as possible. For example , you can say somthing like 'I am a divorced mother of two instead of going into details about why your marriage ended and how hostile your kids can be. Mentioning is important because you allow people who have no problems with your status approach you, but never let the rest of the details play out later in the relationship.
4. Never compare your dates with your ex-spouse or keep mentioning them in your conversation . There must have been good points in your ex-spouse but never make your potential partner feel as though you are comparing them and liking them for their similarities. The only time you should mention our ex is if or when your date asks you something directly related to them. Otherwise shshhhh and enjoy your new found love to be ;)
5. Never bad mouth your ex-spouse. You might think that it makes you look as though you are over them, but in fact make you appear petty and bitter. Never bad mouth them leave alone trying to shift all the blame on them for the broken marriage. You do not want your date to feel uncomfortable because you can't seem to keep secrets and cover up for people in your life. It did not work out so let it go and move on.
6. Get your children involved in one way or another, especially when you feel a relationship is taking a serious path. You should actually come up with ways to make your potential partner and the kids get along. Things are much easier when the kids approve of the relationship and your partner accepts and loves them.
If you have any questions, please feel free to email me (Bimtoria@gmail.com). You can also comment below but not as anonymous (I will sort this out as soon as possible so people's comment can be anonymous if they choose to)
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