Why is it so hard to move on?

How can it be some people go through a break up and seem unfazed by the whole experience? They are able to maintain their motivation and composure while you have done the opposite. Why are you having such a hard time dealing with this while others just move on like it's nothing?

The truth of the matter is that some people can just move on because they were never into their relationship as much as you have been with yours. Confronted with a break up, you just cannot let go and move on. What is the reason you can't move on from this relationship? Read below and you will see there are at least three reasons.

1. You are not ready to give up on the relationship you had thought was going great. There was a time that things were going great between the two of you and maybe it can be that way again. It can be normal to want to bring back those good feelings you had and maybe it is even possible. The thing is how can you ever make it happen?

2. Could you believe your ex still has feelings for you? You could be right, deep down inside them they could still care about you. But you have been getting the cold shoulder treatment after breaking up which means those feelings are buried deep. Over a period of time your ex will be dealing with their personal consequences of the break up and could ultimately move on. On the other hand your ex may find they still have love in their heart for you and want to rekindle the relationship.

3. You may think you are ready to move on with your life but you still have strong feelings towards your ex. You think there is still a chance to get back with them and want to make an effort to make it work. You may even be in the position that you think there is no chance you will ever get them back, but still hold out hope you can.

Sometimes when you go through the motions of moving on, do you realize how you really feel about your ex. Or you may force them to see how they really feel about you. It's never a good idea to play mind games with your ex in this situation; it can help to just let things play out to see where they go.